"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time. "- Malcolm X.
Let me say an overwhelmingly obvious statement - Life is full of adversity. We all face three major adversities in our lives: Experience of Fear, Experience of Pain, and Loss of Love. These are three underlying emotions for anything difficult in your life.
Fear may come in many ways. Fear to start, Fear to end, Fear to do something, and Fear to succeed or fail. Fear of not being able to pay the bills, or putting food on the table. To be alive is to feel pain -whether that is a physical pain or emotional pain. Pain is an ingrained survival mechanism. And lastly Loss of Love. This is may when your partner leaves you or stops loving you. This may also come when you lose a loved one due to death. But in any case, you have loss loved in one form or fashion.
What about death? Death itself is not an adversity, as you do not really fear death, it is the fear of the unknown and what is beyond it. And fear of will happen to you and those you leave behind. Often times pain may precede and even accompany death. It is that pain we experience that is difficult. And lastly death can also cause a loss of loved one; hence loss of love. But how do you cope and deal with such tragedies?
Though life is hard, it doesn’t mean you cannot life a very full and joyous life. The struggles, disappointments, and failures can provide the most important lessons in life. They can strengthen you and give you the opportunity to grow beyond your current limitations. What is important is that faith and resilience will surely get you through any difficult times. Nothing is permanent, and everything will come to pass.
Romans 5:3-5 teaches us that “More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”
So, do not let the tough times bring you down. Let the tough times teach you character, endurance, and hope. Look, I get it. Life can wear you down. It is easy to get discouraged and easy to get weary. You hear things like: “I don’t want to get up early in the morning.” or “It is difficult to get motivated and stay motivated.” Or “This is not for me.”
As I mentioned before, our minds are programmed to see only the negative as a reaction to adversity. Our minds simply want one thing – and that is to survive and keep us out of a state of discomfort. Struggle in itself is not as a result of morality or punishment. Struggle simply is, and, a part of life. Struggle is not evil nor is it a deficiency by nature. Struggle provides you with lessons and teaches you more than success ever will or can.
As Uell S. Andersen said, “Find a man who has suffered a score of defeats and you will find a great soul. He may know more of truth than the man who has won a half dozen victories.”
If you learn to celebrate the struggle, you will find that at its end is victory. It is in these down times, that you will grow and learn about your resolve and strengths. The most important lesson that you must take into your heart is this. When God puts you through these times of adversity, you must learn the lessons of your capacity, covenance, and compassion. God will reveal to you, your ability to withstand the storm and become a person of endurance and strength. The resistance that God places in front of you will test your covenance – your code, your honor, and your discipline and will to succeed. And lastly, tough times will teach you compassion. The compassion to understand another’s trials, fears, and pains. As if you understand these things of another, then you will be more compassionate and tolerant. You will begin to become a person of compassion, capacity, and covenance! And in these things, you will find the ability to live a much more fulfilling and successful life. This is why the greatest people on Earth who has found success, are also the most generous and compassionate. But please do not confuse greatness to simply monetary wealth. I am talking about Mother Theresa, Martin Luther King, Albert Einstein, and the likes.
If you celebrate the struggle, and learn from it, then you will always grow and become stronger in your life. That is the truth. If you let the struggles overcome you, then you will feel drowned with worry and defeated. Instead, learn to accept adversity and grow within that struggle. No human has ever grown and gotten better during times of prosperity. The last thing you should know is that, at the end of your struggle is a triumph - Your Triumph. Even as you read this, you are moving beyond your struggles and into the light. The season will pass, and soon you will look back at it, and know you have not only gone through it, but you have become stronger, and wiser. I understand what you are going through, and believe me, there were times that I wanted to give up and not push forward. I felt like the weight of the world would bear down and crush me. I will not promise you that life will be easy, but I can promise you this; with Faith and Belief in God, it gets easier. And when you cannot seem to bear it anymore, simply pray and let it go unto Him; for He knows the plan for you and that you must live in faith in Him. For every hardship in you life, it is God's way of telling you to you were heading in the wrong direction. When God closes that door, he will surely open another in due time. Not on your timeline, but His. Remember, He has a purpose for you. Walk in Faith and walk in compassion always.
"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28.